Valentine’s Day is a time of love, a time when people express their love to one another. It can also sometimes be when they reflect on the relationship they have or would like to have. A common question people often ask themselves is “how much am I loved in a relationship?” But is this a useful question? Following are two little stories that that offer some perspective.
Category: Case Study
Case Study is a category for client’s case work, which are interesting, usual, impressive. The hypnotherapy case studies are not limited to past life regression works, but all sorts of presenting issues, the cause, and how hypnotherapy helped those individuals for the wellness and betterment.
Samantha brought to our appointment her presenting issue – panic attacks and anxiety. They had always been with her, but got intensified as she was trying to have a baby.
As usual, I never initiate the concept of “past lives” to my clients. It was not until our third session that Samantha started to mention, almost in a negative way, that “past life stuff” couldn’t be true.
It alerted me. I find whenever a person initiates a subject; this person has a subconscious curiosity or even a fascination of it, regardless how the conscious mind may think and judge the subject.
Samantha admitted that she was fascinated by it, but was not sure whether she should believe in reincarnation or not.
My hypnotherapy practice tagline is “Access Your Inner Wisdom”. It’s based on the fact that we all have the inner solutions and wisdom to tap into.
A person can come into my practice presenting an issue, according to their conscious mind, like changing a habit, tackling an emotion, resolving a pattern… that is perceived from the conscious mind, which thinks, analyzes, rationalizes, and has short-term memories.
They come to see a hypnotherapist because they believe to find the cause of the problem, or solution, they need to go inside to their subconscious mind – the mind that created the problem and holds the solution.
Chelsea is an illustrator. She recently had a very “terrible breakup” that “triggered her major depression and anxiety attacks”. She cried everyday for two months. She couldn’t continue working so she took a whole month off to heal, so that she could function.
From a very young age, before I knew what I wanted to do when I grew up, I already knew for certain that I couldn’t do routines.
The idea that everyday is a repetition of a previous day would kill me.
Therefore you can imagine how much I enjoy what I do now.
In the hypnotherapy practice, I never know what I get with the next client.
Even though everyone is so unique, still some people impress me more than others, in different ways.
The Mongolian family are such people, not only because they are from Mongolia, not only because they never showed up alone, not only because they are all big, tall and strong as a typical Mongol, yet so very cute… But also there are things about them that long after their sessions, I still have a smile on my face whenever I think about them.
Wanda told me she felt blocked and therefore stuck in life, even though she has multiple talents and interests. She has done a lot of inner work, including some “spiritual work deep into the self”, where she found some emotional triggers. She went to see a counsellor who used the emotional triggers to attempt to take her back in time…
That was when Wanda “hit a wall” – “I couldn’t get any further. I couldn’t get past the wall.” She told me.
A wall! “How do you know there was a wall?” I asked Wanda. My alarm went off. If there were nothing to hide, disallow, shame, or protect, there wouldn’t be any need for a wall.
Being in this profession, or maybe just like in any other professions, we meet very interesting people in very interesting ways.
Fred is such a young man. He is in his late 20’s, a computing and mathematical genius. His written and spoken skills are precise, scientific, articulate, and illustrative. He told me he has taken some courses in NLP (Neuron-Linguistic Programming) when he showed up. And I could see that he certainly knew how to do his thinking. His “problem” was more on social skills, or it seemed.
I’m so lucky to meet people in this meaningful way. Some people, they walk into my therapy room. We are literally strangers to each other, but we connect. I feel their light shining bright. I recognize them. I know them. I see them. I feel very excited to work with them. There is that mutual trust that transcends the first 30 minutes after we meet, and transcends maybe thousands of years. I don’t even hypnotize them. My voice began, and they went into a most beautiful trance.
I grew up up in China. And I still have memories of Sino-Vietnamese War. I was in my early teens. It was a huge event at the time. Short-lived as it was (It officially lasted for one month in 1979, though the armed conflict lasted for the next ten years), the war was brutal. We heard news everyday from the radio. Back in China, we called that Defensive Counterattack against Vietnam.
Eventually the collective memory of the war went into the file of forgiving. I visited Vietnam three times in my adulthood. My impression of the country was peacefulness with beautiful land and water, even though one could feel past memories still weighed heavy there.
“The reason I choose hypnotherapy is that they say a lot of limiting beliefs, and low self-esteem, are because when I grew up, my parents put the stuff such as ‘I am not good enough’ to my head, and hypnotherapy can take them out of my head.”
“Yes. Hypnotherapy can take them out of your head, sometimes easily, as long as you have not taken an identity out of ‘the stuff’.”
“I don’t know. Maybe in hypnosis I’ll lose control. Maybe I’ll say things that I may not want to say.”
I still didn’t quite understand what exactly Carolyn was referring to, but I told Carolyn content-free hypnosis was completely possible. Besides, her subconscious mind is that protective mind. It will not say things to me that she was not ready for. Subconscious mind is even good at blocking things from ourselves, let alone another person.