Kemila Zsange
Access your inner wisdomHypnotherapy & Counselling
For many years, I believed adaptability was one of my greatest strengths. But at what point does adaptation stop being wisdom and start becoming erosion? Through the story of a client navigating betrayal, accommodation, and the quiet disappearance of her own desires, I found myself confronting a deeper question: how many of us have built lives around what we can tolerate, instead of what truly nourishes us?
When familiar structures fall away, what’s revealed isn’t chaos—it’s coherence without buffering. A reflection on identity, dehypnosis, and naming what was already true.
Within two days, I came across three teachers—Mooji, Bashar, and Steve Rother—all touching on the essence of hypnosis: consciousness, belief, and the shaping of our inner reality.
None of them are hypnotists, yet each revealed something profoundly relevant to my work.
? Watch the clips and join the reflection: What if hypnosis is simply a conscious participation in what we’re already doing—all the time?
When I started my career as a hypnotherapist, I didn’t realize that doing past life regressions would be a huge part of my work. It somehow turned out that way, if you consider that I have written three books, all directly or indirectly about past lives, and I host past life workshops in the West End and Kitsilano Community Centres in Vancouver.
As I approach the last month of being 55 years old, I have started to ponder many things.
When I was younger, I looked at old people. From my young heart, “oldness” was their identity. Like “young-ness” was my assumed identity. Like, they were born old. And I will be young forever. Yes, we all get old. I could say it back then too; however, I only knew it conceptually. I didn’t feel it, not like the way I could feel living in another country, away from my birth country, while I still lived in China.
We all live in the here-and-now and we all form ideas about what constitutes reality. Sometimes we confuse our ideas about reality with reality itself. What we think of as reality is based on our upbringing and learning from our experiences. As such, any ideas and opinions about reality can’t help but be subjective and judgmental.
Therefore, the eye reproduces; it does not see. The ear translates; it does not hear. When our ideas about reality are not in alignment with our desires, we think reality is bad and not one that we want to be in, instead of questioning our ideas about it.
My phone rang, and I answered. Someone on the other side of the wireless invisible line said my website was not on Google page number 1 and he could help me fix that, so I could have more customers and get myself busier.
“There’s something to fix” is a very interesting mindset.
Wasn’t Google set up to help the users?
Isn’t this setup supposed to be organic?
I have not hesitated to put myself out there when I need to, and whenever I have time, in the forms of writing and speaking. If some other people rather than I get on Google page number 1, it only means, supposedly, either Google thinks they can serve others better than I do or they have more time and energy to serve. How can I ever not be happy for that?
Unlike what one would normally imagine a rescuing spirits experience would be – dark, dangerous, sticky, battling, I found it possible for it to be a gentle and loving experience.
When this young man from Bolivia who I’ll call Armando contacted me, I was not sure how sincere he was for a hypnotherapy session, as his written English was so broken that I almost thought it was a spam email.
Many words in English can be interpreted in many ways.
A client I’ll call Jasmine had been working on her Instagram content for a while. Living nomadically as a chef, Instagram worked perfectly for her lifestyle. Her goal was to attract followers and engagement and then eventually monetize her work with brands to earn a living doing what she was passionate about.
As with any business, at times, Jasmine felt discouraged and lost. When things were not moving, money was not there. She started questioning what she was doing and whether she should continue. But before she quit, she had this idea to talk with a hypnotherapist, to get validation about whether quitting was a good idea.
