Start Where the Fear Lives
Most therapy works with the story. This work starts somewhere else. By entering the sensation of fear—gently and with curiosity—the mind drops into trance, and the body begins to unwind what thinking alone cannot reach.
Kemila Zsange
Access your inner wisdomHypnotherapy & Counselling
Most therapy works with the story. This work starts somewhere else. By entering the sensation of fear—gently and with curiosity—the mind drops into trance, and the body begins to unwind what thinking alone cannot reach.
As the hypnotherapy field grows and evolves, I often get asked why I don’t teach certification programs or run large-scale online courses. The truth is simple: I still love working one-on-one. This post is a reflection on why that choice continues to feel authentic, relevant, and alive for me.
A new client came to me today. Let’s call him Gary. He spoke of the failure patterns in his personal and professional life—a long chain of disappointments, and the looming fear of more to come.
I asked him, “Why now? Why is this the right time to come to therapy, especially hypnotherapy?”
Gary admitted he hadn’t even considered therapy for those patterns and fears. But a recent conversation with a trusted friend—about how he couldn’t recall happy memories from childhood or teenage years—prompted his friend to suggest “hypnosis regression therapy.”
Gary trusts this friend deeply. “So,” he said, “I asked my secretary, ChatGPT, for suggestions. Your name came up as the number one recommendation.”
When I started my career as a hypnotherapist, I didn’t realize that doing past life regressions would be a huge part of my work. It somehow turned out that way, if you consider that I have written three books, all directly or indirectly about past lives, and I host past life workshops in the West End and Kitsilano Community Centres in Vancouver.
It was Cameron’s second session. He returned to the office reporting a “successful” experience with his new girlfriend. Cameron didn’t have many questions when he first contacted me. He simply made a Saturday morning appointment. Because it was a weekend,...
In a typical therapy or counselling session, we as practitioners listen, and reflect. In so doing, we help our clients draw out their inner wisdom, so they find answers, solutions or resolutions on their own.
A therapist/counsellor is not there to tell a client what to do, as we cannot decide for anyone else. With that said, throughout my years of practice, I find we don’t need to rigidise anything that we think is “good” or helpful. Besides the lines of “Tell me more about it”, and “how does that make you feel” to reflect back a client’s own inner resources, there are also places for our flexibility, relatability and intuition.
Unlike what one would normally imagine a rescuing spirits experience would be – dark, dangerous, sticky, battling, I found it possible for it to be a gentle and loving experience.
When this young man from Bolivia who I’ll call Armando contacted me, I was not sure how sincere he was for a hypnotherapy session, as his written English was so broken that I almost thought it was a spam email.
Many words in English can be interpreted in many ways.
A client I’ll call Jasmine had been working on her Instagram content for a while. Living nomadically as a chef, Instagram worked perfectly for her lifestyle. Her goal was to attract followers and engagement and then eventually monetize her work with brands to earn a living doing what she was passionate about.
As with any business, at times, Jasmine felt discouraged and lost. When things were not moving, money was not there. She started questioning what she was doing and whether she should continue. But before she quit, she had this idea to talk with a hypnotherapist, to get validation about whether quitting was a good idea.
Suppose disappointment without anger is the mark of an old soul, and not being disappointed is the mark of a really old soul. In that case, living your own life purpose and trusting your own life so thoroughly that every step on its path is valued more than where it is “supposed to take you”, must be the mark of an eternal young soul.
But we all know that willpower is something that is always there when we don’t need it. And rarely there when we actually need it.
When the subconscious mind is engaged, you may not need much of the quality of willpower – Energetically speaking, this word carries a heavy energy of “hardship.” Just like when you enjoy your time and yourself, you don’t need much of the quality of “patience.”