From Bachelor’s to Master’s

It was Cameron’s second session. He returned to the office reporting a “successful” experience with his new girlfriend.

Cameron didn’t have many questions when he first contacted me. He simply made a Saturday morning appointment. Because it was a weekend, the doors of the building where my office is located were locked, and I needed to go downstairs to open them for him. Although he described himself as a very introverted person, he looked very presentable when I met him downstairs for that first time. He told me later in my office that the reason he sought out hypnotherapy was because of erectile dysfunction. That issue had deterred him from being sexually active. He had not been motivated enough to seek professional help until lately, when he had met a new girlfriend who turned out to be very sexual and who had told him that she would move on if their sex life stayed a problem.

“The doctor said I have no physical issues… And I do want to get married and have kids someday,” The 36-year-old said. Gathering his thoughts, he went on to say that the reason he chose me was because he had read this line on my website: “Our largest sexual organ is the brain.”

“I always get stuck in my brain. The more I think about it, the more I need to think about it, and the more I cannot perform…” Cameron pointed his right index finger to his head, “I have a very strong brain, and it blocks me from being able to be aroused when I am with someone.” Through our short time together, I did notice Cameron to be extremely cerebral. Thankfully, he is a very sincere person; otherwise, I thought, he might appear a little timid to people.

During our first session, I put Cameron into the hypnotic state and had him focus on the blockage that he had mentioned concerning feeling aroused. I was using my Objectifying Technique, where I ask someone to describe a blockage in terms of colour, size, location, and shape. Even though it is rare for people to locate things in their head, it was not surprising to me when Cameron simply reported the blockage was in his brain. I tried asking him about other aspects of this blockage, but Cameron cut to the chase, “It’s my thoughts, my head becomes full thinking: ‘It’s not going to work,’ ‘Nothing is happening’…”

When such thoughts become habitual, they can definitely get in the way. I acknowledged the thoughts and pointed out how powerful they were. I spoke directly to the activated thoughts: “You are so powerful that you are always right;” “When you appear in Cameron’s head, his body always follows what you think;” “You are so fast, you appear before the body can even start anything;” “Once you arrive in Cameron’s head, the body does exactly what you think, have you not noticed?”

Then I slowed down and began the process of redirecting those thoughts to align more with Cameron’s conscious goals. “Therefore… I wonder… after you’ve been so right for so long… perhaps there comes a time for graduation… a graduation with high scores for having been right all the time… would you not like to move on to the next level?”

I watched Cameron’s slow breathing in the chair in front of me and continued, “You scored so high with the thoughts: ‘It’s not going to work’ and ‘Nothing is happening’. You don’t need to continue at that level anymore. You can move up to the next level. Even though moving from a Bachelor’s degree to a Master’s degree can be challenging, I have a feeling that, being the strong brain of Cameron, if I may speak to you directly, that you are up for challenges.”

Presenting a new challenge to his brain, I felt, could encourage it to move into alignment with Cameron’s goal. So, I continued to address Cameron’s brain: “In the new Master’s class, there will be new studies, experiments, and observations you must undertake. For example, you will observe, scientifically, how ‘this time, it is working out’, ‘this time, something is happening’. I cannot say what or when or where or how it is happening, as you observe and experiment, but I can say, you, Cameron’s brain, are strong enough and observant enough to find out this time, what is happening, and this time, how it is working out, as hard as it may sound.”

I continued to reinforce the idea of “this time” as the anchor point for the Master’s degree. I pointed out that in the past, it was all about the brain dictating to the body with a future tense – I repeated that that way of thinking belonged to the bachelor’s program, with a pun intended.

Cameron works in sports. He had coached people and was coached. So I emphasized to him that he could coach himself into it, rather than judging himself out of it. Judging was a behaviour belonging to the bachelor’s degree. I told him there was nothing wrong with it, but he could kindly remind himself from time to time, that he has already graduated from the bachelor’s program with high scores. Outgrowing the bachelor’s degree, now with a girlfriend, it was time to move on and level up to his body’s true nature.

I was very happy to hear of Cameron continuing to do well in his Master’s degree.