Kemila Zsange
Access your inner wisdomHypnotherapy & Counselling
It was Cameron’s second session. He returned to the office reporting a “successful” experience with his new girlfriend. Cameron didn’t have many questions when he first contacted me. He simply made a Saturday morning appointment. Because it was a weekend,...
I sat in the semi-dark room quietly for a little longer, breathing. How many times when a client come for a structured past life regression, and the subconscious mind takes us on a symbolic journey? A few examples came to my mind. I knew when the clients trusted and went for it, at the end of the session, the symbols were all so easily decoded and the solutions to their current problems were revealed. When the clients insisted that they didn’t do it right, and insisted it had to be exactly the way that was portrayed in books like Brian Weiss’, they got more frustrated by their “incorporative” subconscious mind.
“Forget Me Not” is the name of a flower. I don’t know why it’s named into one so easy to remember yet almost poetic, but the moment you hear it, you won’t forget it. Of course, I heard the name in Chinese first: ????
Even though it’s an unforgettable name, I never knew what it looked like until 2005.
I was fresh and new in the country of Canada. I had a boyfriend who I had met back in China. He is a French. My early years of new immigrant life were spent between Canada and China, and France and Switzerland, where he had homes. On top of our mutual interest in travelling which had originally brought us together, in those early years of my new immigrant life when I was supposed to be physically more in Canada (1095 days out of 4 years in Canada to apply for citizenship), we met up in Burma, Vietnam, Nepal, Bhutan, Mexico, and Peru. You may wonder why I had bothered to immigrate to Canada when I was developing a stable relationship with a French person.
In this 36-minute podcast, Bethany Gettis and I spoke of food, New Year Resolutions, letting go of control, diets, parenting, and how memories work. At one point, I spoke of how our mind is like a mansion with many rooms, and memories are housed in each room (therefore memories are state-based). Just as I finished saying that, I got carried away by my analogy, and wandered into another room in the mansion of my mind. I had to ask Bethany, “Sorry, what was your question again?” to get back on track. We all get sidetracked by our minds, it is how memories work. I laughed at it when I was watching the Podcast video tonight.
As I approach the last month of being 55 years old, I have started to ponder many things.
When I was younger, I looked at old people. From my young heart, “oldness” was their identity. Like “young-ness” was my assumed identity. Like, they were born old. And I will be young forever. Yes, we all get old. I could say it back then too; however, I only knew it conceptually. I didn’t feel it, not like the way I could feel living in another country, away from my birth country, while I still lived in China.
We all live in the here-and-now and we all form ideas about what constitutes reality. Sometimes we confuse our ideas about reality with reality itself. What we think of as reality is based on our upbringing and learning from our experiences. As such, any ideas and opinions about reality can’t help but be subjective and judgmental.
Therefore, the eye reproduces; it does not see. The ear translates; it does not hear. When our ideas about reality are not in alignment with our desires, we think reality is bad and not one that we want to be in, instead of questioning our ideas about it.
My phone rang, and I answered. Someone on the other side of the wireless invisible line said my website was not on Google page number 1 and he could help me fix that, so I could have more customers and get myself busier.
“There’s something to fix” is a very interesting mindset.
Wasn’t Google set up to help the users?
Isn’t this setup supposed to be organic?
I have not hesitated to put myself out there when I need to, and whenever I have time, in the forms of writing and speaking. If some other people rather than I get on Google page number 1, it only means, supposedly, either Google thinks they can serve others better than I do or they have more time and energy to serve. How can I ever not be happy for that?
In a typical therapy or counselling session, we as practitioners listen, and reflect. In so doing, we help our clients draw out their inner wisdom, so they find answers, solutions or resolutions on their own.
A therapist/counsellor is not there to tell a client what to do, as we cannot decide for anyone else. With that said, throughout my years of practice, I find we don’t need to rigidise anything that we think is “good” or helpful. Besides the lines of “Tell me more about it”, and “how does that make you feel” to reflect back a client’s own inner resources, there are also places for our flexibility, relatability and intuition.
I got up very early this morning. While Paris Olympics just started, while someone I care for is having his birthday, while it’s the 5th anniversary of my mother’s passing, what I felt this morning was more of peace.
Peace is not a thing we look for, or search for, or have to work hard to find, or a reward after winning a battle. It is ALWAYS there inside of us if we choose to plug in and listen to our hearts, no matter where we are.
Before finding a therapist to guide you through your mental health journey, you must become familiar with the various therapies. This is a person who you will engage in a deep relationship, entrust with the intimacy of your personal story....
