Tagged: identification

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The Night I Missed the Colosseum Tickets

Life is a continuous competition among possible trances, and whichever trance recruits enough emotional energy temporarily becomes our reality. This is a story about forgetting something important because attention was occupied elsewhere. I had carefully planned my Colosseum visit, set reminders, and made sure I knew exactly when the tickets would be released. And yet, I forgot. What happened that night reminded me that even someone who studies hypnosis for a living is not immune to the power of attention, emotion, and trance.

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Why Self-Awareness Doesn’t Always Lead to Change?

Why can we understand something deeply, yet continue living as if we don’t? In this video filmed in Victoria, Australia, I explore why insight alone doesn’t always create lasting change—and how genuine transformation emerges beyond the thinking mind.

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When Adaptation Becomes Erosion

For many years, I believed adaptability was one of my greatest strengths. But at what point does adaptation stop being wisdom and start becoming erosion? Through the story of a client navigating betrayal, accommodation, and the quiet disappearance of her own desires, I found myself confronting a deeper question: how many of us have built lives around what we can tolerate, instead of what truly nourishes us?

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The US

Join Kemila on a reflection on emotional states, hypnosis, national identity, and the deeper psychological meaning behind “The United States.” Through language, philosophy, and collective wellbeing, this piece explores how both people and nations move through changing states of mind.

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What Happens When the Structure Falls Away

When familiar structures fall away, what’s revealed isn’t chaos—it’s coherence without buffering. A reflection on identity, dehypnosis, and naming what was already true.

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Getting Old as a Child

As I approach the last month of being 55 years old, I have started to ponder many things.

When I was younger, I looked at old people. From my young heart, “oldness” was their identity. Like “young-ness” was my assumed identity. Like, they were born old. And I will be young forever. Yes, we all get old. I could say it back then too; however, I only knew it conceptually. I didn’t feel it, not like the way I could feel living in another country, away from my birth country, while I still lived in China.

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Why do We Worry?

We all live in the here-and-now and we all form ideas about what constitutes reality. Sometimes we confuse our ideas about reality with reality itself. What we think of as reality is based on our upbringing and learning from our experiences. As such, any ideas and opinions about reality can’t help but be subjective and judgmental.

Therefore, the eye reproduces; it does not see. The ear translates; it does not hear. When our ideas about reality are not in alignment with our desires, we think reality is bad and not one that we want to be in, instead of questioning our ideas about it.

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Google Ranking and Provincial Election

My phone rang, and I answered. Someone on the other side of the wireless invisible line said my website was not on Google page number 1 and he could help me fix that, so I could have more customers and get myself busier.

“There’s something to fix” is a very interesting mindset.

Wasn’t Google set up to help the users?

Isn’t this setup supposed to be organic?

I have not hesitated to put myself out there when I need to, and whenever I have time, in the forms of writing and speaking. If some other people rather than I get on Google page number 1, it only means, supposedly, either Google thinks they can serve others better than I do or they have more time and energy to serve. How can I ever not be happy for that?

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Dearest Anne

First published in 1947 and then translated into more than seventy languages, Anne Frank’s diary has been known worldwide for many decades. We all have heard of it. But honestly, I never felt compelled to read it, imagining there might be more hype and political importance than an actual good book.

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The Best Boss I’ve Ever Had, etc.

A recent interview I had had some interesting questions:
Have you ever had an amazing boss, mentor or leader leading you? Can you give us a story or anecdote that helps illustrate why this person was such a great leader and the impact they had on you or their team?
Training and knowledge matter, of course, but beyond that, what do you think matters most in terms of succeeding in your field?…