Tagged: identification

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Getting Old as a Child

As I approach the last month of being 55 years old, I have started to ponder many things.

When I was younger, I looked at old people. From my young heart, “oldness” was their identity. Like “young-ness” was my assumed identity. Like, they were born old. And I will be young forever. Yes, we all get old. I could say it back then too; however, I only knew it conceptually. I didn’t feel it, not like the way I could feel living in another country, away from my birth country, while I still lived in China.

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Why do We Worry?

We all live in the here-and-now and we all form ideas about what constitutes reality. Sometimes we confuse our ideas about reality with reality itself. What we think of as reality is based on our upbringing and learning from our experiences. As such, any ideas and opinions about reality can’t help but be subjective and judgmental.

Therefore, the eye reproduces; it does not see. The ear translates; it does not hear. When our ideas about reality are not in alignment with our desires, we think reality is bad and not one that we want to be in, instead of questioning our ideas about it.

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Google Ranking and Provincial Election

My phone rang, and I answered. Someone on the other side of the wireless invisible line said my website was not on Google page number 1 and he could help me fix that, so I could have more customers and get myself busier.

“There’s something to fix” is a very interesting mindset.

Wasn’t Google set up to help the users?

Isn’t this setup supposed to be organic?

I have not hesitated to put myself out there when I need to, and whenever I have time, in the forms of writing and speaking. If some other people rather than I get on Google page number 1, it only means, supposedly, either Google thinks they can serve others better than I do or they have more time and energy to serve. How can I ever not be happy for that?

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Dearest Anne

First published in 1947 and then translated into more than seventy languages, Anne Frank’s diary has been known worldwide for many decades. We all have heard of it. But honestly, I never felt compelled to read it, imagining there might be more hype and political importance than an actual good book.

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The Best Boss I’ve Ever Had, etc.

A recent interview I had had some interesting questions:
Have you ever had an amazing boss, mentor or leader leading you? Can you give us a story or anecdote that helps illustrate why this person was such a great leader and the impact they had on you or their team?
Training and knowledge matter, of course, but beyond that, what do you think matters most in terms of succeeding in your field?…

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Being Authentic

Some think being authentic is not telling lies, being good, doing the right things, the good things – the good-girl, good-boy syndrome. We have been programmed to think in those terms. But where does that concept of being a good girl, being a good boy really come from? It may just come from other people who want to keep you in line, who want to keep you doing what they want you to do. It has nothing to do with being authentic. It has something to do with control. It gets ingrained in us over and over again in the early years.

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Journeys or Destinations

In my childhood, I dreamed that when I grew up, I would marry a train conductor, so I could, in my imagination, travel for free! I shared this dream with my sister and a close friend. The friend said she had a feeling, that in the future more people would be flying to travel. I should aim higher – literally, to become a pilot’s wife rather than a train conductor’s.

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Without Trying to Hypnotize You

Without trying to hypnotize you, I’d like you to stare into the graphic art for a minute or two.

Maybe lots of circles, maybe a depth, maybe confusing, maybe fractured, maybe patterns, or even motion…

It’s a natural thing when you look into such an image and begin to see movement. The brain doesn’t know how to read all the patterns that have been specifically designed, so it starts seeing motions, and many times a motion will draw you into it. Sometimes it’ll feel like it’s coming at you.

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What Does Confidence Have to Do with Flavour?

Many people I come across understand that many of their issues—whether emotional, mental, behavioural, and perhaps even physical—can come down to a lack of self-confidence. Heather, my new client had just come to see me about her body-image and perceived difficulty in dating when I mentioned she may just lack a little confidence.

“Yes, I know that!” she exclaimed. And then she looked at me innocently, as if she was asking me, “Now what can you do Kemila to bring some confidence to me, through the magic you know that’s called hypnosis?”

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Saving Her from Drowning

A new client today asked me, before leaving the office, “Do you always use the same words in your sessions?” After seeing a puzzled look on my face, he explained, “I mean, you used the word God a few times...