Valentine’s Day is a time of love, a time when people express their love to one another. It can also sometimes be when they reflect on the relationship they have or would like to have. A common question people often ask themselves is “how much am I loved in a relationship?” But is this a useful question? Following are two little stories that that offer some perspective.
Tagged: unconscious decisions
Growing up, I often wondered, what happened to my music?
It was as if I was meant to be musical. When I was a child, I dreamt of singing on a stage.
Those daydreams were very real. I had them in detail.
Over six years ago, on a Car Free Day in Vancouver, I met someone who I could only use the words “my counterpart” to describe. Strange it may sound, it felt to me that he was me in another form. He is a musician – a singer song writer. Like a soul splitting into two, living simultaneous parallel lives, I felt he is fulfilling my music side of life, and I get to single-mindedly focus on what I came here to do. Hypnotherapy is musical after all, to my life.
And in this music, I feel so heard.
My hypnotherapy practice tagline is “Access Your Inner Wisdom”. It’s based on the fact that we all have the inner solutions and wisdom to tap into.
A person can come into my practice presenting an issue, according to their conscious mind, like changing a habit, tackling an emotion, resolving a pattern… that is perceived from the conscious mind, which thinks, analyzes, rationalizes, and has short-term memories.
They come to see a hypnotherapist because they believe to find the cause of the problem, or solution, they need to go inside to their subconscious mind – the mind that created the problem and holds the solution.
Chelsea is an illustrator. She recently had a very “terrible breakup” that “triggered her major depression and anxiety attacks”. She cried everyday for two months. She couldn’t continue working so she took a whole month off to heal, so that she could function.
We can experience the high road, the low road or the invisible road, but we can only have experience. Doubt tells us that we can make a bad choice, and we can’t. We can only experience. Doubt causes us to stay in our little human trap, causes us to stay little, to keep playing the game of “I am little.” We have more fun with doubt than just about any other energy.
Being in this profession, or maybe just like in any other professions, we meet very interesting people in very interesting ways.
Fred is such a young man. He is in his late 20’s, a computing and mathematical genius. His written and spoken skills are precise, scientific, articulate, and illustrative. He told me he has taken some courses in NLP (Neuron-Linguistic Programming) when he showed up. And I could see that he certainly knew how to do his thinking. His “problem” was more on social skills, or it seemed.
To assist some of my workshops, I have made a Theory of the Mind.
This oval mind is not a closed system though. It has access to the universal mind – the power and Intelligence that has been named by many. It will enable you to solve any problem, overcome any obstacle, and achieve any goal that you sincerely desire.
Recently an author named Nathan interviewed me, in compiling his own book on hypnosis and hypnotism. And I’d like to post the complete interview here as add-on information of myself.
How did you become involved in hypnosis?
Do you enjoy the work? What is the most and least rewarding aspects of being a hypnotist?
What are your interests aside from hypnotism?
What are the neurological processes involved? How does it work?
What are the most common misconceptions about hypnotherapy?
Can anybody be hypnotized? Do some cultures or ethnicities respond better to it?
Can anybody learn to be a hypnotist?
What can hypnotherapy be used to treat, and what is the success rate?
Have you ever been hypnotized yourself?
Do you have a favorite story from your work?
What is your advice to someone looking into hypnotherapy as a solution to their problems?
“I feel I already know you,” says Britney, as she sits here on the couch in my hypnotherapy room, speaking very calmly, within the first 5 minutes we’ve met.
Britney is addressing the fact that she has read a lot of pages on my website before she contacted me for a series of hypnotherapy sessions.
I am curious. Her presenting issue is anxiety and fear, yet this person who’s sitting right in front of me, is composed, mature, and calm. There’s a natural peaceful energy around her that makes my breath even and thoughts clear. I feel instantly sitting with Britney is an enjoyable thing.
Collective agreement makes us feel safe. Yet collective agreement is a TRANCE. We enter this trance, and call it “waking” state.
We are so conditioned to those standards that we fall asleep to our own inner senses. We become blind to what we truly know, inside, and we seek knowledge from outside.
Again and again and again, I’m amazed at how much resources, wisdom and creativity opening up when I induce a hypnotic trance with someone. The inner portions of a person’s identity are already aware of much that the person says he doesn’t know. My work becomes to acquaint one’s egotistical self with knowledge that is already known to a larger portion of one’s own consciousness, the one that is long ignored.