There were many times in my sessions I felt at loss. Things didn’t go as I intended, or they didn’t go as my clients expected. There were many times a session twisted itself and I found myself delivering in a very different manner from what we anticipated. And then there were times a session became so fluid that I started to wonder where this was going to go.
Brenda’s Teardrop is her ego. The ego is the mind-made entity that consists of a bundle of thoughts that occur frequently. In the bundle of thoughts are all the things that we’ve identified with ourselves – job positions, relationships, accomplishments, disappointments, our successes and failures, what other people think of us, all those thoughts form in the mind. They come together and congregate in a bundle. These congregated bundles of recurring thoughts become the place where we derive our sense of self. It is a story-based entity – The Me and my story. And the story is called “My Life”. My life becomes a mental construct. The way we interpret memories.
From a very young age, before I knew what I wanted to do when I grew up, I already knew for certain that I couldn’t do routines.
The idea that everyday is a repetition of a previous day would kill me.
Therefore you can imagine how much I enjoy what I do now.
In the hypnotherapy practice, I never know what I get with the next client.
Even though everyone is so unique, still some people impress me more than others, in different ways.
The Mongolian family are such people, not only because they are from Mongolia, not only because they never showed up alone, not only because they are all big, tall and strong as a typical Mongol, yet so very cute… But also there are things about them that long after their sessions, I still have a smile on my face whenever I think about them.
Wanda told me she felt blocked and therefore stuck in life, even though she has multiple talents and interests. She has done a lot of inner work, including some “spiritual work deep into the self”, where she found some emotional triggers. She went to see a counsellor who used the emotional triggers to attempt to take her back in time…
That was when Wanda “hit a wall” – “I couldn’t get any further. I couldn’t get past the wall.” She told me.
A wall! “How do you know there was a wall?” I asked Wanda. My alarm went off. If there were nothing to hide, disallow, shame, or protect, there wouldn’t be any need for a wall.
Being in this profession, or maybe just like in any other professions, we meet very interesting people in very interesting ways.
Fred is such a young man. He is in his late 20’s, a computing and mathematical genius. His written and spoken skills are precise, scientific, articulate, and illustrative. He told me he has taken some courses in NLP (Neuron-Linguistic Programming) when he showed up. And I could see that he certainly knew how to do his thinking. His “problem” was more on social skills, or it seemed.
I’m so lucky to meet people in this meaningful way. Some people, they walk into my therapy room. We are literally strangers to each other, but we connect. I feel their light shining bright. I recognize them. I know them. I see them. I feel very excited to work with them. There is that mutual trust that transcends the first 30 minutes after we meet, and transcends maybe thousands of years. I don’t even hypnotize them. My voice began, and they went into a most beautiful trance.
Recently an author named Nathan interviewed me, in compiling his own book on hypnosis and hypnotism. And I’d like to post the complete interview here as add-on information of myself.
How did you become involved in hypnosis?
Do you enjoy the work? What is the most and least rewarding aspects of being a hypnotist?
What are your interests aside from hypnotism?
What are the neurological processes involved? How does it work?
What are the most common misconceptions about hypnotherapy?
Can anybody be hypnotized? Do some cultures or ethnicities respond better to it?
Can anybody learn to be a hypnotist?
What can hypnotherapy be used to treat, and what is the success rate?
Have you ever been hypnotized yourself?
Do you have a favorite story from your work?
What is your advice to someone looking into hypnotherapy as a solution to their problems?
“The reason I choose hypnotherapy is that they say a lot of limiting beliefs, and low self-esteem, are because when I grew up, my parents put the stuff such as ‘I am not good enough’ to my head, and hypnotherapy can take them out of my head.”
“Yes. Hypnotherapy can take them out of your head, sometimes easily, as long as you have not taken an identity out of ‘the stuff’.”
Collective agreement makes us feel safe. Yet collective agreement is a TRANCE. We enter this trance, and call it “waking” state.
We are so conditioned to those standards that we fall asleep to our own inner senses. We become blind to what we truly know, inside, and we seek knowledge from outside.
Again and again and again, I’m amazed at how much resources, wisdom and creativity opening up when I induce a hypnotic trance with someone. The inner portions of a person’s identity are already aware of much that the person says he doesn’t know. My work becomes to acquaint one’s egotistical self with knowledge that is already known to a larger portion of one’s own consciousness, the one that is long ignored.