We all know there is one thing that doesn’t change. That is change itself.

Throughout our lives, we actually all go through many changes. There is much we can do to stop it or manage it, but there is much we can do to choose our responses to it.

Change is subjective. You may go through a change that is traumatic but others may not relate to it the same way.

So, What is Change?

Change is going from one thing to another, to make or become different.

As David Bowie sang in his song “Changes”: Turn and face the strange … It’s the unknown.

Our reptilian mind, or the primitive mind, is the survival mind. It is the low end of the food chain. we no longer need to have that fear anymore, but we still have the primitive mind. So we protect our “identity” with the primitive mind.

Areas of Changes

1. Career: I remember I used to hate when people asked me, “What do you do?” I felt the answer I had to give – administrative assistant – couldn’t define who I was, but then I had no choice. The moment I told them that answer, people started looking at me as if it was my identity, which felt off as in my deep soul level I was not that. Luckily hypnotherapy found me. Now I couldn’t wait for people, say in a party, to ask, “what do you do?” It was indeed a very good change for me. But it was not easy when I first went through the change from an employee to self-employed.
2. Finances: Our financial situations change. Finance does not necessarily mean the net worth, or how much money you have in the bank.
3. Loss of a loved one.
4. Relationship stats: single to couple, couple to single
5. Physical body: dramatic changes, weight gain or loss, or illness.
6. Physical environment: Selling a house. Moving to another city or country.

What would be Our Resistances to Change?

1. Homeostasis: Change threatens the known. In the body we have the system to regulate the body temperature, to keep it at a certain ranges, to keep the emotional system for familiarity, and the multiple identities we have. To break that our subconscious mind can rebel. To succeed at anything you have to make the unfamiliar familiar and the familiar unfamiliar.
2. Fear of the unknown: what’s behind the door #3? We are fearful of the unknown, as we feel it means loss of control. Even though the unknown can be great, we don’t want to step into it.
3. Letting go: To move forward, we have to leave something behind, yet if whatever that’s meant to be released is somehow still “connected” with us, we experience the pain of letting go.
4. Not capable: You may fear you do not have the resource for the new. Or you have not tapped into the confidence, not trusting you can deal with the change.
5. Afraid to change the identity: People know me as this identity; therefore I’m not willing to let go of this identity.

How Can Hypnotherapy Help You Dealing with Change?

Some of the tools we do in a hypnotherapy session may include the following methods:

1. Help you find a stabilizer: In our discussion, we help you find one thing that can be the stabilizer. For example, when I first moved from China to Canada, going to Chinese New Year celebrations has helped me ease the overwhelming feeling. Even it was as simple as making dumplings with a group of other newcomers. The gatherings served as a stabilizer. The same goes for career change and relationship change.
2. Reorientation and refocusing: If the universe is friendly, find three legitimate reasons why this change is happening. Let the meditation begin, in hypnosis, so that you can choose to focus on the positive side of the change.
3. Venting: The hypnotherapy room is a safe space to allow you to experience your true emotions. It’s as if finding a guest house for your emotions. Then in hypnosis we help you move the emotions through the body, and vent it out.
4. Ego strengthening: When our identity threatened, we start to play small, for fear of failure and success. There are hypnosis techniques to allow you to feel their inner strength. You may be guided to a special place, a comfortable environment… where you receive a treasure chest. Inside the box, is something that is going to help you with the change.
5. Systematic Desensitization
6. Anchor in new positive change. Find a peak moment, and anchor in change.

Scientifically the faster you adapt to change, the longer you live.

Time may change me
But I can’t trace time

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