Hoarding How It Can Harm, And How I Can Help

Definition of hoarding includes saving, not throw away, not able to let go, holding on for too long, long after the value is gone.

A person with hoarding disorder experiences distress at the thought of getting rid of the items. They have excessive accumulation of items, regardless of actual value, occurs. In the items they may find a piece of self, or they will need it in a future day.

In 2013 DSM formally labeled hoarding as a disorder. This disorder has many stages and many levels
Not everyone who hoards is defined it as a disorder. The difference is like between a person who is anxious and a person who has anxiety disorder.

In the stage of our development, we all have collected something. That is how we learn procession was like. It gives us a sense of value. Only 2-5% will evolve into a disorder.

The trigger may be an emotional events, such as death of a loved one: why would I let go of a piece of myself? It then becomes a piece of our identity. “I am my collection.” As a child when someone is surrounded by a sense of no control, they may form this tendency. This behaviour can eventually become a full blown disorder. However, Most people get diagnosed after they turn 40.

Commonality of Hoarding Behaviour

  • garage-full of stuff – can’t get to the back of garage.
  • family of history of hoarding – It’s more likely a learned behaviour.
  • low marriage rate high divorce rate – Hoarding always creates difficulty in relationships
  • a perfectionist – They are also highly detail oriented people.
  • difficult orient their emotions – They have difficult in letting go.
  • go inward – They may also have difficulty in socializing.
  • inbox of thousand emails

A Collector or A Hoarder?

A collector collects things with value. Real collectors have a pride in their collection. They have joy sharing and displaying. They collection is normally organized. There is a satisfaction. They are able to effectively budget their time and financial resources.

A hoarder collects things no long of value, but they believe they will need it sometime in the future. Or they simply give them sentimental value, things like too big of a bargain to throw away.

Holding on to stuff becomes a problem when it’s out of control, too cluttered, and it’s negatively affect the life, not only to the person, but the ones around them. Hoarding becomes a problem when it’s progressed far beyond the normal, for example, you cannot see the floor anymore.

Telltale Signs to Watch

  • It becomes more and more difficulty throwing away possessions.
  • When you attempt to throw away items, even though you don’t find usefulness of them, you feel something wrong. When even thinking about it makes you worry and anxious, it may have progressed to a disorder stage.
  • There is a lot of guilt and shame around it.
  • Emotionally you go in withdraw.
  • You can’t let others touch your stuff. You are territorial and concerned and worried. For example, you are concerned about running out of a certain item; or you are paranoid about something you might need in the future.
  • You may even go to the trash to make sure you might need something in the future
  • The amount of livable space has diminished so significantly that your life is restricted.
  • You experience social isolation because of that. And you are not comfortable when things need to be fixed because of embarrassment.

How Hoarding Negatively Affects People Around Them

Mostly hoarder affect their family, to the point the marriage or relationship can become seriously challenging. Common emotions include anger, resentment, depression. It also affects children’s social development, and may cause their isolation. It may cause evacuation if renting, as it can be fire hazard.

How can hypnotherapy help?

Even though at some stage, a hoarder can experience financial problems, hoarders themselves can can be very poor or very wealthy. Hoarders are not lazy people as we’d like to think. They can even have very high standards. A hoarder may just be overwhelmed.

So don’t worry. I am not going to your house and clean the clutter for you. but I can empower you to sustain a healthier and more productive lifestyle.

Hoarders are normally afraid to change, so they normally don’t show up in my office. However, some events may trigger it, and they become more uncomfortable than they are afraid to change.
Often times it’s a fear based motivation: losing house, losing job, losing partner… whatever it is, they have to move.

In our Counselling-hypnotherapy session, we spend time describing how this habit that started long time ago has become a problem, your relationship to the problem, finding out the good reasons you hold on to what you hold on. Is it more of your own concern or someone else’s concern? How is this habit negatively affecting your life? How is it negatively affecting others? What’s causing you want to change this habit? what positive things are going to happen?

You will also learn practical organizational skills, and learn to prioritize. Together we identify where is the most important place to start, creating continuous success by achieving success. So you know it’s achievable.

You will never be judged by your hypnotherapist

We may may go through stages of loss and grief. You will learn that it is good to have those feelings, but you can move through them. But you are always in control of your own thoughts and feelings.

In letting go the outdated behaviour, we start to build a healthy sense of self. After all, resistance is just a fear. You have reached a boundary. You have reached a real point that real change will happen. the next step will be the step towards the freedom.

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146 WAYS HYPNOTHERAPY MIGHT HELP YOU

Discover for yourself how you can use your inner creative abilities to overcome and transform obstacles and limitations and to realize your goals in joy and freedom.
  1. Strengthening Self-Confidence
  2. Motivation v.s. Procrastination
  3. Poor Self-Image
  4. Reduce Stress
  5. Overcome Anxiety
  6. Assertiveness
  7. Worry
  8. Guilt
  9. Forgiveness
  10. Stubborn
  11. Anger Isssues
  12. Frustration
  13. IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome )
  14. Social Phobia
  15. Sales Performance
  16. Passive-Aggressive
  17. Stop Blushing
  18. Concentration
  19. Mental Focus
  20. Reach Goals
  21. Shyness
  22. Change Habits
  23. Attitude Adjustment
  24. Career Success
  25. Chronic Fatigue (ME)
  26. Relationship and Couple Hypnosis Therapy
  27. Relaxation
  28. Nausea
  29. Surgical Recovery
  30. Childhood Sexual Abuse
  31. Gambling
  32. Memory Recall
  33. Creativity
  34. Writers Block
  35. Self-Expression
  36. Lack of Initiative
  37. Allergies
  38. Overly Critical
  39. Negativism
  40. Grieving and Mourning
  41. Weight Loss
  42. Substance Abuse
  43. Addictions
  44. Irrational Fears or Phobias
  45. Dialogue with Inner Child
  46. Insomnia
  47. Childhood Sexual Abuse
  48. Sports Enhancement
  49. Fear of School
  50. Fear of Dentist
  51. Fear of Doctor
  52. Fear of Surgery
  53. Soul Retrieval
  54. Past Life Regression
  55. Contact Spirit Guides
  56. Access Higher Self
  57. Out of Body Experience (OBE)
  58. Automatic Writing
  59. Spirit Attachment Release
  60. Obsessive-Compulsive (OCD)
  61. Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD)
  62. Eating Disorders
  63. Cravings
  64. Compulsive Eating
  65. Communication with the Deceased
  66. Obsessions
  67. Insecurity in Relationships
  68. Child Birth
  69. Future Life Progression
  70. Fear of Flying
  71. Fear of Heights
  72. Fear of Water
  73. Depression
  74. Pain Management & Pain Control
  75. Fear of Rejection
  76. Hypnosis for Business
  77. Irritability
  78. Pessimism
  79. Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD) or Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)
  80. Performance Anxiety
  81. Panic Attacks
  82. Temptation
  83. Road Rage
  84. Self-Awareness
  85. Aggression
  86. Stop Smoking
  87. Overcome Fear of Public Speaking
  88. Break through limitations
  89. Moodiness
  90. Sleep Disorders
  91. Age Regression
  92. Sexual Problems
  93. Irrational thoughts
  94. Lack of Enthusiasm
  95. Lack of Direction
  96. Ulcers
  97. Helplessness and Hopelessness
  98. Pregnancy and Childbirth
  99. Infertility
  100. Money and Financial Success
  101. Bed Wetting
  102. Perfectionism
  103. Trauma and PTSD
  104. Stuttering
  105. Abandonment
  106. Problem Solving
  107. Hypertension (Lower Blood Pressure)
  108. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)
  109. Deal with Changes
  110. Self-Forgiveness
  111. Nail Biting (Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours)
  112. Thumb Sucking (BFRB)
  113. ET Abduction and Encounter
  114. Discouraged
  115. Fear of Loss of Control
  116. Fear of Failure
  117. Fear of Success
  118. Lack of Ambition
  119. Self-Control
  120. Inferiority
  121. Superiority
  122. Jealousy
  123. Self-Criticism & Self-Defeating Behaviors
  124. Shame
  125. Indecisiveness
  126. Resistance to Change
  127. Self-Hypnosis
  128. Restlessness
  129. Sadness
  130. Insecurity
  131. Mistrust
  132. Victimization
  133. Summer Depression
  134. Maintain Posture & Improve Body Language
  135. Presurgical
  136. Postsurgical
  137. Hoarding Disorder
  138. Gagging
  139. Dreams
  140. Nightmares / Night terrors
  141. Headaches
  142. Death or Loss
  143. Fear of Death
  144. Learn a New skill
  145. Assist Healing
  146. Self-Mastery